Okay, I am not trying to suggest a way for
member of the church to kick out those who are interested in the gospel, but
rather, I would like to discuss something that we have been always doing, but
not realizing that the things that we do would probably influence a person to
leave the church.
As Mormons, we are knee on sharing our
belief to others, “to stand as witnesses of God at all times and in all things,
and in all places…” (Mosiah 18:9). Undeniably missionary work has a high priority
in many LDS members’ lives as the prophets and apostles have constantly reminded
us the importance of it. Many members share the gospel to friends, families, and
neighbours enthusiastically with a hope that these people will join the church
someday. However, we often neglect the feeling of the investigators and impose
our ideologies onto them.
When I say “members often neglect the
feeling of the investigators”, I am referring to the way we see these people,
we see them as object. I sound a bit overgeneralizing, but from my observation,
the way members treat investigators are quite systematic – systematic in a way
that members have a set of formula on how to treat these people. The formula
goes like this: investigators come to church à we
befriend them with a purpose to help them to get baptized à the investigators have doubt (it’s okay and normal to have doubt, don’t
you think?) à we use every fibre of our soul to counsel them and tell them that
getting baptized is the only way out. The result is, either these people stop
investigating the church (members are upset, the friend link is broken, and
some might even think that these investigators are influenced by Satan) or getting
baptized but later on leave the church because they feel they are being forced
to do so. Does it sound familiar to you?
So, what about imposing our ideologies?
Members often are very kind to introduce, not just the doctrine and the gospel,
but also the Mormon culture to the newbies. Even though I am not a newbies
anymore, but sometimes I still have this feeling that people are trying to tell
me that “THIS IS THE WAY HOW YOU SHOULD LIVE AS A MORMON”, the worst is what
these people say is not necessary related to the gospel and it’s just their way
of life. Come on, the way you live as a Mormon is not the way how I want to be
as a Mormon. Keeping commandments are not always easy for the new comer. So,
please please please STOP telling investigators how they should live their
lives and what choices they should make, rather, please nourish them with the
word of God and let them make the choices and be responsible to themselves.
I am a convert to the Church and I am truly
grateful for the missionaries who taught me and the fellow shippers who are genuine,
kind, understanding and the most important, they let me be who I am. Those who
are interested in the Church, and those new members, deserve the right to
figure out for themselves the way they should be. They all, if desire, have the
ability to find a personal way to communicate with God. Our roles, as members
of the church, should be their sincere friends and show genuine supports no
matter what their choices are. They deserve to be treated at PEOPLE, not
OBJECT.
G.K.
YES! I think this was the greatest lesson I learned on my mission--to let people act by their own conscience, and not coerce them into anything. It's God's way to give agency, and it should be His people's way, also.
ReplyDeleteKa Yan...you are so right. We need to genuinely love others just the way they are. Good post. Sis. Ellis
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