Last weekend I had this opportunity to
attend conference at Berkeley, California. The conference is focused on sharing
research on Mormonism in Asia. Honestly I had a great time there. I got the
chance to meet with many great people and scholars. It was a great event for
ideas exchange. All researches and papers were great and can't list them all
here. However there's a little incident happened that I really wanted to share
my thoughts on that.
During the Q&A session of the panel
that I was in, a lady raised her hand, stood up and shared her comments right
after and other lady in the crowd asked her question. I can't record the exact
wordings of what she had said, but simply what she was trying to say was
something like these, "we know all the answers to the issues and questions
you all mentioned in your research. I am grateful that I know there are answers
to these questions." She then stood up and walked out the room. I hope I
didn't get it wrong but to me, what she meant was "you all just need get
over it, for whatever you guys are talking about. There're answers in the
gospel!" I agree that there are answers in the gospel that can solve our
problems, however I don't believe that we can just simply say "get over it"
and let that be the solution to any questions.
On the same day my friend shared with me
that she struggled a lot in her ward, simply because people are having this
get-over-it attitude. She said one time the teacher taught about forgiveness
and a sister shared her struggle and not able to forgive someone at this stage
of her life. Another sister just spoke up and said" oh! Just get over
it!" The sister was disappointed, not that she couldn't forgive that
person, but it definitely takes time to be able to forgive someone. In that
situation, she is being categorized as the stubborn-not-forgiving person.
It seems like among members we seek to be
result-orientated. We rejoice in hearing others successful story on overcoming
challenges and struggles in life rather than listening to how they walked
through the painful path. When we share our experiences, we tend to skip
describing the process but focus on glorifying the outcome and what a great
person we have become. Needless to say how we look down and step our feet onto
those who are struggling because we accuse them being stubborn and not having
enough faith that all things will eventually work out.
No one on this earth have the ability to
fully comprehend what other person are going through in their lives. Nor
should we tempt to believe that we have this ability and go around to mock
those who are struggling, belittling them as the little-faith. Even though we
seem to know that we can find most of the answers in life in the gospel, but
God wants us to experience, ask question and seek help. He doesn't want us to
just know the answer and get over it. We are all different. We all have our own
challenges and struggles in life. Be a good listener to those who suffer. Let
him/her share what they have been going through. Most importantly, we need to
get rid of the get-over-it attitude. Don't pretend to be the expert in dealing
with struggles and challenges because only the Lord is able to guide us
through.
G.K.
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