tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-66219598619676257472023-11-16T21:14:59.521+08:00Chinese Mormon GirlAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00930702726600770839noreply@blogger.comBlogger69125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6621959861967625747.post-76971200716214933102015-04-03T10:00:00.001+08:002015-04-03T10:00:29.775+08:00Because He Lives<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">Because He Lives</span></div>
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<span class="s1">Going through something difficult changes every aspect of you.</span></div>
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<span class="s1">Last week was the first time in a whole year when I woke up without <br />
feeling that despair. It was an amazing feeling when I knew my life was as <br />
messy as it could get yet recognizing the absence of weariness.</span></div>
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<span class="s1">1 year of hard work</span></div>
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<span class="s1">1 year of recovery</span></div>
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<span class="s1">Looking back the choices, the paths I have taken,<br />
I still don’t regret any of them.</span></div>
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<span class="s1">During the most excruciating moment,</span></div>
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<span class="s1">I ached, doubted, questioned wondering the purpose of it all.</span></div>
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<span class="s1">I remembered the nights when I cried in my prayers, pleading and <br />
begging for relief yet waking up the next morning drowning in fear. The <br />
fear of never getting better, the fear of those false accusations becoming <br />
a fragment of reality. </span></div>
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<span class="s1">What gives me courage to keep fighting this fight is the reassuring love <br />
I’ve felt. My family, my best friends, my new priesthood leaders, and many <br />
who still stands by me and has not shrunk in the presence of my <br />
struggles, my sufferings. Most importantly, the overwhelming love and <br />
care I’ve felt through priesthood blessings, temple worship. My trials have <br />
not been removed nor my experience was erased however the atonement <br />
of Jesus Christ has made the pain a little more bearable. </span></div>
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<span class="s1">Because He Lives, He understands how I feel and He willingly suffers on <br />
my behalf.</span></div>
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<span class="s1">Because He Lives, my burdens are made light.</span></div>
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<span class="s1">Because He Lives, I have the confidence to experience difficulties in life <br />
even though I may break, I may be hurt knowing with 100% confidence <br />
that I can also be healed.</span></div>
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<span class="s1">My wise friend once shared this brilliant concept about faith. He pointed <br />
out that God operates on faith just as much as we do. He loves us and He <br />
wants us back however He allows us to learn and grow through <br />
exercising agency. While having access and control to all elements, time, <br />
He compels no one. </span></div>
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<span class="s1">Looking at my scares, both emotional and spiritual ones, I am grateful for the <br />
growth through this difficult experience. The values, beliefs, I hold true to <br />
my conviction, to the contrary, root even more deeply in the midst of <br />
chaos. It is evident in my research, academic work, and clinical practice. </span></div>
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<span class="s1">Because He Lives, I can finally offer my gratitude. <br />
“Thank you, Mr. Gardener, for loving me enough to cut me down.”</span></div>
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<span class="s1"><i>Thus we in gratitude recall</i></span></div>
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<span class="s1"><i>And give our love and pledge our all,</i></span></div>
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<span class="s1"><i>Shed grateful tear</i></span></div>
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<span class="s1"><i>And conquer fear.</i></span></div>
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<span class="s1">—The Easter Morn, Hymn #198</span></div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00930702726600770839noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6621959861967625747.post-52194073473372846372014-12-31T14:05:00.002+08:002014-12-31T14:05:22.025+08:00What Almost Killed You Made You Stronger!!!<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">Christmas this year was a very emotional holiday. I was surrounded by friends <br />
and family, opening presents and laughing my head off. I tried capturing the <br />
complex thoughts and mixed feelings but words cannot accurately portrait any.<br />When I started this blog 1.5 years ago, I opened it with my authentic <br />
struggles coming home from the mission. Feelings bewildered, desperately <br />
finding purpose in life, and there I have found the summary of my 2014 experience.</span></div>
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<span class="s1">Many of you may remember the unfortunately incident I had earlier this year <br />
with some members and church leaders from my home ward. </span></div>
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<span class="s1">It left me spiritually, emotionally wounded and for a long time I was terrified <br />
that I would never feel the conviction I once had again. I do not glorify this <br />
experience because of the heinous and unnecessary nature of individual’s action. </span></div>
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<span class="s1">This incident forever changes the way I perceive trials and difficult times. God <br />
did not make this happen; not in a million years. He didn’t whisper into the <br />
ears of those individuals telling them to hurt me. </span></div>
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<span class="s1">However, He did let that happen.</span></div>
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<span class="s1">He honored individuals agency; till this day, He continues to aid me the love <br />
and support I need for recovery. I am truly grateful for those who love me, <br />
take me in, and bear with me when I take time to grieve, to be vulnerable. <br />
When I deal with it head on, these brave souls lovingly endure listening to<br />the cruel details and reassuring me that it’s going to be okay and that I am safe <br />
with them.</span></div>
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<span class="s1">I have learned so much about the atonement as I learn about pain. In one of <br />
my favorite talks, <i>the Uses of Adversity,</i> Carlfred Broderick clarified the <br />
purpose of the atonement and reassure necessity to feel all range of <br />
emotions, including pain. “The gospel of Jesus Christ is not insurance against <br />
pain. It is a resource in event of pain, and when that pain comes (and it will <br />
come because we came here on earth to have pain among other things), <br />
when it comes, rejoice that you have a resource to deal with your pain.” </span></div>
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<span class="s1">Suffice to say that I am doing better. I have a great therapist who helps me to <br />
understand the overwhelming feelings I wake up to every day. <br />I still feel pain, fear, doubts but I also begin to see hope.<br />
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<span class="s1">2015 will be an exciting year. In anticipating these amazing opportunities to <br />
come, I am most excited to hope and be courageous again.</span></div>
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<span class="s1">“It's not their pain you're afraid of. It's yours, Charles. And as frightening as it <br />
can be, that pain will make you stronger. If you allow yourself to feel it, <br />
embrace it. It will make you more powerful than you ever imagined. It's the <br />
greatest gift we have: to bear their pain without breaking. And it comes from <br />the most human part of us: hope. Charles, we need you to hope again.” <br />
Professor X, X-men: Days of Future Past</span></div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00930702726600770839noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6621959861967625747.post-9802335589376631342014-10-05T15:56:00.000+08:002014-10-05T15:56:17.075+08:00Think Twice Before You Sign the Discriminational Law Review (Because You Are Told To)<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">Today I am very disappointed on how some members handled the <br />
Discrimination Law Review and publicly lobby members at church<br />
meetings to disagree certain consultation questions in the name of <br />
protecting traditional institution of marriage in Hong Kong. I know the risk <br />
of posting this and it is my intention to explain why you should think twice <br />
before signing it.</span></div>
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<span class="s1">I understand the Church’s position on homosexuality and defending <br />
traditional family. I am a Mormon, and I have been struggling to <br />
understand how to balance loving my friends who are homosexual while <br />
aligning my thoughts and actions with my beliefs.</span></div>
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<span class="s1">This is the moment for me to speak up. </span></div>
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<span class="s1">In the circulated online message and Relief Society announcement, <br />
members (or nonmembers) are strongly encourage to show concern for <br />
the questions listed in the following website.<br />
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Question 6, 9, 69, 70, 71, 72, 73 </span></div>
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<span class="s2"><a href="http://www.eocdlr.org.hk/en/summary-ap.html?f=s&c=white">http://www.eocdlr.org.hk/en/summary-ap.html?f=s&c=white</a></span></div>
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<span class="s1">When the forms were distributed, a few who were confused with legal <br />
jargons raised their questions indicated not knowing what they were <br />
asked to do. The instructions given were to just check disagree on the <br />
questions indicated above and then submit them since this would be very <br />
urgent. Someone else spoke up and voiced concern of the basic right for <br />
the audience which required fully understanding the content of <br />
Discrimination Law before indicating their comments. That got shot down <br />
pretty quickly.</span></div>
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<span class="s1">In another ward, the forms were prepared with those questioned <br />
indicating disagree while member just had to put their personal <br />
information on. The introduction and purpose of the law review were not <br />
given in both wards which caused my concerns.</span></div>
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<span class="s1">#1 You and I have our rights as citizens to voice our concerns but not this <br />
way. You can solicit response while you have clearly explain the purpose <br />
of your inquiry and given a chance for participants to freely express their <br />
options. This is basic ethics, honoring and respecting each other’s right. </span></div>
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<span class="s1">#2 This Discrimination Law Review has nothing to do with redefining the <br />
institution of marriage but to discuss if we need to expand the scope to <br />
protect people in other circumstances. The purpose of the review is <br />
clearly listed in the following:<br />
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“The DLR is not intended to be a consultation on developing <br />
comprehensive discrimination legislation for new protected characteristics <br />
such as sexual orientation, gender identity, intersex status, or age. The <br />
EOC believes that it would be preferable to conduct separate <br />
consultations on developing discrimination laws in new areas. We note, <br />
however, that where the scope of the existing protected characteristics <br />
raises an issue directly connected to new characteristics, we do broadly <br />
discuss that issue. An example of this is the possibility of protecting people <br />from discrimination where they are in de facto relationships and whether that<br /> should apply to same-sex relationships. This links to a <br />
characteristic of sexual orientation. <b><span style="background-color: yellow; color: #20124d;">However we also note this is not a <br />
consultation on whether we believe same-sex marriage should be <br />
legalized</span>.</b>”</span></div>
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<span class="s1">Honestly, I am very disappointed, dreadfully frustrated because this would <br />
have been a major ethical violation in my profession. This is not how we <br />
conduct scientific research studies. If someone handed me a pre-filled <br />
form, I would have not hesitated and express the humiliation and <br />
objectification behind that. This is not how we participate in civil <br />
responsibilities. </span></div>
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<span class="s1">On another note, there is no contradiction between supporting traditional <br />
marriage, accordingly to the family proclamation and reconsidering <br />
protection for people in de facto relationship, regardless heterosexual or <br />homosexual. We don’t pick and choose who we love and protect even if <br />
we don’t agree with their lifestyle. We follow Christ's example to love all. </span></div>
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<span class="s1">Pardon my conscience screaming it isn’t right.</span></div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00930702726600770839noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6621959861967625747.post-22739663930242742432014-10-04T23:16:00.000+08:002014-10-04T23:16:18.009+08:00Democracy and Obedience: How gospel values should be employed in politics<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">1.</span>. There is no evil in asking for something before knowing completely what it is. There are scores of examples of people who sought after the gospel, not knowing what exactly it was yet the peripheral "beginneth to be delicious to [them]". We are not morally obligated to make a decision after fully understanding the details.</div>
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2. Even though we believe that God is at helm and He is watching over us, he DID NOT take away our ability to act for ourselves nor WILL HE do so. We have been constantly reminded that as Latter-day Saints we are to act and not to be act upon, and this is an eternal truth. Understanding that "everything is going to be alright at the end" (which is absolutely true) DOES NOT mean we are not required to actively bring to pass this happy ending. </div>
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3. In fact, the Lord has asked His servants to "counsel between themselves and me" - suggesting that while there are absolute truths within the gospel, the application of these truths can vary. Reasoning is not just a gift given to us by our loving Father, but also a duty and responsibility - and most of all a commandment - that is crucial to the growth of all Latter-day Saints. The Lord gave a strong warning concerning this - after He addressed the Saints about politics, "...Otherwise whatsoever is less than these cometh of evil."</div>
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4. After giving such commandment to his presiding servants the Lord declared, </div>
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"For behold, it is not meet that I should command in all things; for he that is compelled in all things, the same is a slothful and not a wise servant; wherefore he receiveth no reward.</div>
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Verily I say, men should be anxiously engaged in a good cause, and do many things of their own free will, and bring to pass much righteousness."</div>
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Keywords - "not meet that I should command in all things", "anxiously engaged", "good cause", "own free will". We are asked to act. Sitting in my home waiting for a blessing will do no good. It was ever thus.</div>
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5. The fall of the Nephites had nothing to do with democracy. It is appalling to read such statement. The idea of a democratic government is to establish a system which the majority rules, especially “a government in which the supreme power is vested in the people”. While in the church we believe in the power of God and we are his subjects, we are not under the same obligation to our government as to our theocratic church. While the idea of letting the people to choose as their will desires is dangerous and could result into bad choices (which had happened in the scriptural history, e.g., Exodus where the congregation almost unanimously agreed to elect a new leader and return to Egypt), the very principle of letting the people to choose is inseparable to the heavenly law of moral agency. Taking away the right to choose and what you have are but pawns and not humans.</div>
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6. That being said until this day God has not re-organized His political Kingdom. Before then He allows us to choose our own government systems with guidelines provided through scriptures and latter-day prophets. Arguments can be made concerning the political governments among the Saints but the ultimate decisions should be made by the people. Employing scriptures to endorse a particular government system is not only dangerous but also misguiding. Opinions can still differ even though we believe in the same gospel.</div>
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7. God has given His children laws concerning fighting back and responding to threats. Some of these laws are eternal and some are of a temporary nature. There is a danger when one employ a scriptural story to support or disapprove a current event. For example, the fact the people of Alma refused to defend for themselves when the Lamanites attacked does not condemn those who decided to fight for their right. The fact that Limhi and his people did fight for themselves does not justify the notion to answer with swords. Until a clear instruction is given unto us through the proper priesthood channel one is entitled to believe as he pleases - as long as his conscience approves.</div>
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8. "The works, and the designs, and the purposes of God cannot be frustrated, neither can they come to naught. Remember, remember that it is not the work of God that is frustrated, but the work of men." </div>
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9. Remember, not that everything happening in this life is the will of God. In some instances He merely "suffer" them to happen. The outcome of an event does not justify the nature or clarify the will of God concerning the event. It is dangerous, even heretical to suggest that the result defines the nature. While we are told to judge the tree by its fruits, it is a false doctrine that in this life all good causes will prevail. </div>
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10. It is dangerous to use church terms in daily life without discretion. For example, according to True To The Faith, </div>
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"Prophets speak of having a “firm hope” (Alma 34:41) and a “lively hope” (1 Peter 1:3). The prophet Moroni taught, “Whoso believeth in God might with surety hope for a better world, yea, even a place at the right hand of God, which hope cometh of faith, maketh an anchor to the souls of men, which would make them sure and steadfast, always abounding in good works, being led to glorify God” (Ether 12:4).</div>
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When we have hope, we trust God's promises. We have a quiet assurance that if we do “the works of righteousness,” we “shall receive [our] reward, even peace in this world, and eternal life in the world to come” (D&C 59:23). Mormon taught that such hope comes only through the Atonement of Jesus Christ: “What is it that ye shall hope for? Behold I say unto you that ye shall have hope through the atonement of Christ and the power of his resurrection, to be raised unto life eternal, and this because of your faith in him according to the promise” (Moroni 7:41)."</div>
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Such hope should not be confused with the hope that we frequently mention in daily life. The hope that we mention in daily life is centered in the daily exercise that we do and the experience that we have accumulated - not necessarily in the Lord. To suggest that because we have faith in Christ we are to hope "in all things" literally is misleading and shows a lack of understanding of the principle of hope.</div>
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One is obligated to do all that he can in order to achieve the will of God. We are to exercise our own free will and bring to pass the good things we are asked to do. The Lord has given us the right to do the things that we believed to be true and it is a duty for us to act according to our conscience. We might act differently and sometimes disagree with each other, yet this does not mean that one has erred. As President Faust suggested, "We do not lose our identity in becoming members of this church".While “truth is singular [and] its ‘versions’ are mistruths”, opinions can be justified with reasons.<br /><br />Ryan Ka Shu Mok</div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00930702726600770839noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6621959861967625747.post-17113869475636611782014-10-03T13:13:00.000+08:002014-10-03T13:13:13.190+08:00Occupying Central Part 2: What You Need To Know Before Sharing Your Political View with Scriptural References<div class="p1">
<span style="color: #8e7cc3;">While we were discussing the current issue in Hong Kong, we read some posts on Facebook that members using scriptures/GC talks etc, any church-related materials to defend their views. We found it quite an interesting phenomena and we would like to do an experiment in showing how using scriptures/GC talks/Leaders’ words to defend a seemingly “truth” is not appropriate.</span></div>
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<span style="color: #8e7cc3;">As Danise mentioned on her Facebook status, “research has suggested a theory of confirmation bias in which you follow your preference to search for information that confirms your view.” The sources we choose to support our personal view is not wrong in context itself. However, bias are inevitable when our minds are flooded by our personal views and cultural perceptions. Once we found those words/quotes that confirm our thought, they become the “truth” to ourselves. We should pay attention while using scriptures/GC talks/Leaders’ words in confirming our political views. The dangerous side is that we may use the “truth” we found in scriptures/GC talks/Leaders’ words to confirm our political “truth”. Scriptures/GC talks/Leaders’ words are supposed to use for teaching Gospel Principle – the eternal truth.</span></div>
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<span class="s1"><span style="color: #9fc5e8;">This occupying central movement has been a wake up call for many. </span></span></div>
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<span class="s1"><span style="color: #9fc5e8;">High school students armed with plastic wraps, raincoats, </span></span></div>
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<span class="s1"><span style="color: #9fc5e8;">goggles, and umbrellas grasping at straws for democracy. </span></span></div>
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<span class="s1"><span style="color: #9fc5e8;">I see hope, a hope that is reignited as citizens from all walks of life </span></span></div>
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<span class="s1"><span style="color: #9fc5e8;">coming together defending the same cause. </span></span></div>
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<span class="s1"><span style="color: #9fc5e8;">I see an undeniable failure when the brain washing </span></span></div>
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<span class="s1"><span style="color: #9fc5e8;">"moral and national education” curriculum,<br />the culturally ingrained sense of conformity, </span></span></div>
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<span class="s1"><span style="color: #9fc5e8;">and blind obedience fail miserably. </span></span></div>
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<span class="s1"><span style="color: #9fc5e8;">Charles Dickens brilliantly depicted the paradoxical feelings at the<br />beginning of A Tale of Two Cities.</span></span></div>
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<span style="color: #9fc5e8;"><br /></span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1"><span style="color: #9fc5e8;">“It was the best of times, it was the worst of times, </span></span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1"><span style="color: #9fc5e8;">it was the age of wisdom, it was the age of foolishness, </span></span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1"><span style="color: #9fc5e8;">it was the epoch of belief, it was the epoch of incredulity, </span></span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1"><span style="color: #9fc5e8;">it was the season of Light, it was the season of Darkness, </span></span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1"><span style="color: #9fc5e8;">it was the spring of hope, it was the winter of despair, </span></span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1"><span style="color: #9fc5e8;">we had everything before us, we had nothing before us, </span></span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1"><span style="color: #9fc5e8;">we were all going direct to Heaven, we were all going direct the other way – </span></span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1"><span style="color: #9fc5e8;">In short, the period was so far like the present period, that some of its<br />noisiest authorities insisted on its being received, for good or for evil,<br />in the superlative degree of comparison only.”</span></span></div>
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<span style="color: #9fc5e8;"><br /></span></div>
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<span style="color: #9fc5e8;"><br /></span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1"><span style="color: #9fc5e8;">While being stuck in the Mormonland learning to be a social advocate, </span></span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1"><span style="color: #9fc5e8;">I do my very best to take my stand and actively participate.</span></span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1"><span style="color: #9fc5e8;">Hours of monitoring the news, explaining the situation to people I know,</span></span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1"><span style="color: #9fc5e8;">I feel absolutely exhausted with a robust schedule juggling </span></span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1"><span style="color: #9fc5e8;">school, work, and reading up on Hong Kong. </span></span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1"><span style="color: #9fc5e8;">What scares me the most isn’t the banner warning policing firing their weapon.</span></span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1"><span style="color: #9fc5e8;">It was church members quoting scriptures,</span></span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1"><span style="color: #9fc5e8;">supporting their political view.</span></span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1"><span style="color: #9fc5e8;">“Facebook etiquette” is circulated among members which </span></span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1"><span style="color: #9fc5e8;">includes no disagreeing comments on other’s pages.</span></span></div>
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<span style="color: #9fc5e8;"><br /></span></div>
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<span style="color: #9fc5e8;"><br /></span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1"><span style="color: #9fc5e8;">Granted their intention is great, preventing online disagreement </span></span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1"><span style="color: #9fc5e8;">turning into bible bashing, which backfire our public image.</span></span></div>
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<span style="color: #9fc5e8;"><br /></span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1"><span style="color: #9fc5e8;">Ironically, this is the very reason why high school students</span></span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1"><span style="color: #9fc5e8;">are making a statement to the world.</span></span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1"><span style="color: #9fc5e8;">Why do we seek pseudo-harmony (the absence of conflict)</span></span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1"><span style="color: #9fc5e8;">and trade in our voices? </span></span></div>
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<span style="color: #9fc5e8;"><br /></span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1"><span style="color: #9fc5e8;">This is the problem I see when the collectiveness of the Chinese</span></span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1"><span style="color: #9fc5e8;">culture mixing and singling out 1 gospel principle.</span></span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1"><span style="color: #9fc5e8;">Normally, it’s perfect for regular worship setting. </span></span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1"><span style="color: #9fc5e8;">When we are given a topic, for example on the Holy Ghost,</span></span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1"><span style="color: #9fc5e8;">I focus on my search on related doctrine and quotes which is </span></span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1"><span style="color: #9fc5e8;">perfectly fine because they are all truths, gospel truths.</span></span></div>
<div class="p2">
<span style="color: #9fc5e8;"><br /></span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1"><span style="color: #9fc5e8;">However, it goes downward spiral if the same method is employed</span></span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1"><span style="color: #9fc5e8;">in a political debate. It’s okay to have different views and I hope</span></span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1"><span style="color: #9fc5e8;">we have different views. The fact that different voices are appreciated</span></span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1"><span style="color: #9fc5e8;">is exactly why we fight for democracy. What creeps me out is people</span></span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1"><span style="color: #9fc5e8;">misquote scriptures and talks to strong arming people to ally with.</span></span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1"><span style="color: #9fc5e8;">It stifles communication, healthy critical thinking, and distort the political</span></span></div>
<div class="p1">
</div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1"><span style="color: #9fc5e8;">neutrality nature of the Church. Remember, the gospel is a holistic whole<br />a transformation, a conversion that not only changes a single behavior<br />or thoughts but our whole way of being. </span></span><br />
<span class="s1"><span style="color: #9fc5e8;"><br /></span></span><span class="s1"><span style="color: #9fc5e8;">Please don't cherry pick principles of the gospel. </span></span></div>
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<span class="s1"><span style="color: #9fc5e8;"><br /></span></span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1"><span style="color: #9fc5e8;">K.D.</span></span></div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00930702726600770839noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6621959861967625747.post-37754840569147622372014-10-03T12:56:00.002+08:002014-10-03T13:04:07.896+08:00Occupying Central Part 1: What Does The Scripture Say About It?<div class="p1">
To support the movement:</div>
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I don’t know how you feel, my brethren and sisters, but I’d rather be dead than to lose my liberty. I have no fear we’ll ever lose it because of invasion from the outside. But I do have fear that it may slip away from us because of our own indifference, our own negligence, as citizens of this land. And so I plead with you this morning that you take an active interest in matters pertaining to the future of this country.</div>
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Ezra Taft Benson – BYU Devotional – 1952 December</div>
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Now I beseech you, brethren, by the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, that ye all speak the same thing, and that there be no divisions among you; but that ye be perfectly joined together in the same mind and in the same judgment.</div>
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1 Corinthians 1:10</div>
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<div class="p1">
And they entered into a covenant to fight for the liberty of the Nephites, yea, to protect the land unto the laying down of their lives; yea, even they covenanted that they never would give up their liberty, but they would fight in all cases to protect the Nephites and themselves from bondage.</div>
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Alma 53:17</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="p1">
The whole chapter of Alma 60, especially:</div>
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Behold, I am Moroni, your chief captain. I seek not for power, but to pull it down. I seek not for honor of the world, but for the glory of my God, and the freedom and welfare of my country. And thus I close mine epistle.</div>
<div class="p1">
Alma 60:36</div>
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<br />
To support 689 (The Government) </div>
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<span class="s1">Article of Faith 12</span></div>
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<span class="s1">We believe in being subject to kings, presidents, rulers, and magistrates, in obeying, honoring, and sustaining the law.</span></div>
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<div class="p4">
<span class="s1">Doctrine and Covenants 134:5</span></div>
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<div class="p4">
<span class="s1">We believe that all men are bound to sustain and uphold the respective governments in which they reside, while protected in their inherent and inalienable rights by the laws of such governments; and that sedition and rebellion are unbecoming every citizen thus protected, and should be punished accordingly; and that all governments have a right to enact such laws as in their own judgments are best calculated to secure the public interest; at the same time, however, holding sacred the freedom of conscience.</span></div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="p4">
<span class="s1">Doctrine and covenants 58: 21-22</span></div>
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<div class="p4">
<span class="s1">Let no man think he is ruler; but let God rule him that judgeth, according to the counsel of his own will, or, in other words, him that counseleth or sitteth upon the judgment seat.</span></div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="p4">
<span class="s1">Let no man break the laws of the land, for he that keepeth the laws of God hath no need to break the laws of the land.</span></div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="p4">
<span class="s1">Alma 4:16</span></div>
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<span class="s1">And he selected a wise man who was among the elders of the church, and gave him power according to the voice of the people, that he might have power to enact laws according to the laws which had been given, and to put them in force according to the wickedness and the crimes of the people.</span></div>
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<span class="s1">3 Nephi 11:29</span></div>
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<span class="s1">For verily, verily I say unto you, he that hath the spirit of contention is not of me, but is of the devil, who is the father of contention, and he stirreth up the hearts of men to contend with anger, one with another. </span></div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="p4">
<span class="s1">Doctrine and Covenants 10:63</span></div>
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<div class="p4">
<span class="s1">And this I do that I may establish my gospel, that there may not be so much contention; yea, Satan doth stir up the hearts of the people to contention concerning the points of my doctrine; and in these things they do err, for they do wrest the scriptures and do not understand them.</span></div>
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<div class="p4">
<span class="s1">Alma 37:31</span></div>
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<span class="s1">Yea, and cursed be the land forever and ever unto those workers of darkness and secret combinations, even unto destruction, except they repent before they are fully ripe. </span></div>
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<span class="s1"><br /></span></div>
<div class="p4">
<span class="s1">Fully confused?? Now proceed to part two and you will know why. </span></div>
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<span class="s1"><br /></span></div>
<div class="p4">
G.K. & K.D.</div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00930702726600770839noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6621959861967625747.post-90257929771631946282014-08-31T14:08:00.000+08:002014-08-31T14:43:16.661+08:00A God of Equal Rights; A God of Love<div class="p1">
This week I was at the Provo Temple with a friend attended a sealing </div>
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<span class="s1"></span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">
session. The session happened to be officiated by a hilarious and <br />
talkative sealer who took the time to pause and taught us the promise <br />
blessings of the sealing ordinances and personal applications. </span></div>
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<span class="s1"></span><br /></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">He paused and indicated something <br />
I’ve never noticed from the blessing of children being sealed to <br />
parents. Due to the sacred nature of the ordinance, the best I can do <br />
is summing up how the prayer specifically indicated identical <br />
blessings for those who are sealed to their parents later on in life are <br />
the same comparing to those those who are born into the covenant. </span></div>
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<span class="s1"></span><br /></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">“He’s a loving Heavenly Father; a God of equal rights and a God of <br />
love.” Said the wise sealer.</span></div>
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<span class="s1"></span><br /></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">I WAS IN AWE...…</span></div>
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<span class="s1"></span><br /></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">Coming from an interfaith family, I used to feel like the black sheep. <br />
My circumstance has made a huge difference in my life than my <br />
peers such as not being able to get baptized at the age of 8, my <br />
father’s objection to attend BYU or serve a mission, the need of other <br />
priesthood bearers offering priesthood blessings, etc…. It’s really <br />
hard on me as a kid. </span></div>
<div class="p2">
<span class="s1"></span><br /></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">Two weeks ago, I got to share a related experience attending Church <br />
in Heber City, Utah as the teacher struggled with the same sense of <br />
inadequacy. I struggled through my first transfer on my <br />
mission realizing I had a hard time bearing witness and teaching <br />
eternal family because I wasn’t in one. I felt really ashamed standing <br />
in the shadow of the Salt Lake Temple and just had the most <br />
inadequate feeling. I prayed frequently and studied fervently hoping I <br />
could gain a testimony of eternal marriage before having my own.</span></div>
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<span class="s1"></span><br /></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">It wasn’t necessary what I studied but the connections and <br />
associations I was making that eventually connected the dots. <br />
Gradually, I realized it didn’t matter what stages we were at in the <br />
plan of salvation; what matter was that we were progressing, even <br />
one step towards Christ. That I could bear witness of because I knew <br />
and have felt the unconditionally love of God and the power of the <br />
atonement. </span></div>
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<span class="s1"></span><br /></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">Instead of sharing my own family stories, I began to talk about my <br />
aspiration and hope of one day obtaining the blessings of having an <br />
eternal family of my own. </span></div>
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<span class="s1"></span><br /></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">That’s why I still feel strongly about this topic and often speak up in <br />
any Church settings. It isn’t because I am radical or against temple <br />
marriage but my “allergic reaction” towards judgmental and shaming <br />
attitude towards our fellow children of God who perhaps progress at a <br />
different pace or choose differently. </span></div>
<div class="p2">
<span class="s1"></span><br /></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">I am grateful for my mother’s sacrifices and faithfulness even when <br />
other members trying to take over her job being my mother just <br />
because they’ve been married in the temple. Although we are not <br />
sealed as a family, I know Heavenly Father loves us and knows our <br />
circumstances perfectly to sort this out one day. Before that, I am <br />
banking on my faith in Him trusting things will work out as He has my <br />
best interest. That’s what faith is all about, right?</span></div>
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<span class="s1"></span><br /></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">K.D. </span></div>
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<span class="s1"></span><br /></div>
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<span class="s1"></span><br /></div>
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<span class="s1"></span><br /></div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00930702726600770839noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6621959861967625747.post-40732360689254410352014-08-15T11:07:00.001+08:002014-08-15T11:39:47.875+08:00Is Suicide A Choice?<div class="p1">
<span style="color: #999999;">Reading about the death of Robin Williams was difficult. Patch </span></div>
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<span class="s1" style="color: #999999;"></span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1" style="color: #999999;">
Adams, Good Will Hunting are movies that inspire me to practice<br />
counseling. He was an outstanding actor and his performance has <br />
touched the hearts of many. </span></div>
<div class="p2">
<span style="color: #999999;"><span class="s1"></span><br /></span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1" style="color: #999999;">But today I read a Christian blogger’s post with a title like this.<br />
“Robin Williams didn’t die from a disease; it was his choice.”</span></div>
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<span style="color: #999999;"><span class="s1"></span><br /></span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1" style="color: #999999;">I was furious beyond measure, not just for the heartless discussion on <br />
depression and suicide but also the insensitive comment shaming and <br />
blaming those tho struggle with mental illness. </span></div>
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<span style="color: #999999;"><span class="s1"></span><br /></span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1" style="color: #999999;">So here I am.</span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1" style="color: #999999;">I want to talk about the unspeakable.</span></div>
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<span style="color: #999999;"><span class="s1"></span><br /></span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1" style="color: #999999;">As Mormons we often speak if the idea of agency. It is true that <br />
God has given us this precious gift, coupled with the atonement for <br />
our learning and progression. Volunteering with minorities for the past <br />
year has led me to a new understanding of agency, a difficult one. </span></div>
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<span style="color: #999999;"><span class="s1"></span><br /></span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1" style="color: #999999;">What if we don’t know or can’t see all the options that are available?</span></div>
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<span style="color: #999999;"><span class="s1"></span><br /></span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1" style="color: #999999;">I’ll give you a real example.</span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1" style="color: #999999;">Few months back, I was dealing with a troubling situation. At first, I <br />
thought I was doing okay to handle it by myself but I was in trouble. <br />
Whenever I was in the environment with the the people who hurt me <br />
and caused the whole incident, I began to be very anxious. I had <br />
nightmares. I had flashbacks. I would sweat like if I were in the gym <br />
and shivered. (classic PTSD)</span></div>
<div class="p2">
<span style="color: #999999;"><span class="s1"></span><br /></span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1" style="color: #999999;">I was absolutely scared and felt hopeless. It was a very dark place <br />
and I couldn’t get out.</span></div>
<div class="p2">
<span style="color: #999999;"><span class="s1"></span><br /></span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1" style="color: #999999;">Thanks to the support of great friends, I recognized those red flags <br />
myself and I sought help. Some in the position to help moved me out <br />
of the situation immediately. Some offered a safe space to talk and <br />
cry. Some comforted me with kind words of hope. Some fed me <br />
chocolate and ice-cream.</span></div>
<div class="p2">
<span style="color: #999999;"><span class="s1"></span><br /></span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1" style="color: #999999;">Had I always seen a way out?</span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1" style="color: #999999;">NO! </span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1" style="color: #999999;">I would have never survive this rough time without the help of all <br />
those who stood with me and bore my burden.</span></div>
<div class="p2">
<span style="color: #999999;"><span class="s1"></span><br /></span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1" style="color: #999999;">Now let’s talk about suicide.</span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1" style="color: #999999;">Do people have a choice clearing knowing they are choosing to end <br />
their life?</span></div>
<div class="p2">
<span style="color: #999999;"><span class="s1"></span><br /></span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1" style="color: #999999;">I don’t know and neither do you.</span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1" style="color: #999999;">That’s why I am very thankful for a merciful God who judges us and a <br />
Savior who stands as an advocate with the Father. (D&C 45:3)</span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1" style="color: #999999;">What goes on in the mind of someone who struggles with mental <br />
health is complex. </span></div>
<div class="p2">
<span style="color: #999999;"><span class="s1"></span><br /></span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1" style="color: #999999;">While we don’t encourage people to choose suicide as a way out, <br />
let’s do something that you and I can do.</span></div>
<div class="p2">
<span style="color: #999999;"><span class="s1"></span><br /></span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1" style="color: #999999;">Let’s take out the stereotypes, the stigma, the judgement, the <br />
insensitivity that are preventing them to see.</span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1" style="color: #999999;">Let’s be supportive and encouraging for those who fear to seek help.</span></div>
<div class="p2">
<span style="color: #999999;"><span class="s1"></span><br /></span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1" style="color: #999999;">Is suicide a choice?</span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1" style="color: #999999;">I don’t know.</span></div>
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<span class="s1" style="color: #999999;">All I know is that suicide is a tragedy.</span></div>
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<span style="color: #999999;"><span class="s1"></span><br /></span></div>
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<span style="color: #999999;"><span class="s1"></span><br /></span></div>
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<span style="color: #999999;"><span class="s1"></span><br /></span></div>
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<span class="s1" style="color: #999999;">To the men who inspired me to be an empathetic counselor.</span></div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00930702726600770839noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6621959861967625747.post-65359591620166560182014-07-22T22:02:00.001+08:002014-07-22T22:05:28.265+08:00Every Star is Different<div class="p1">
Let it be known that I love Vic 1 primary :)</div>
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<span class="s1">I would have never imagined growing to love these little people so <br />
much just by watching them singing their hearts out each Sunday. It <br />
has been a very special experience for me transitioning from wards <br />
and moving on from difficult experiences.</span></div>
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<span class="s1">Sitting behind the piano, with shaky hands, I nervously watched <br />the cutest humans blurting out familiar lyrics—<br /><br />
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<span class="s1">“Ev'ry star is diff'rent,</span></div>
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<span class="s1">And so is ev'ry child.</span></div>
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<span class="s1">Some are bright and happy,</span></div>
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<span class="s1">And some are meek and mild.</span></div>
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<span class="s1">Ev'ry one is needed</span></div>
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<span class="s1">For just what he can do.</span></div>
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<span class="s1">You're the only person</span></div>
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<span class="s1">Who ever can be you.</span></div>
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<span class="s1">I smiled. <br />
Tears began to blur my vision.<br />
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How true is that everyone of us are meant to be different. I carefully <br />
observed their little bodies and how hard they tried expressing <br />
themselves via music. One little girl, with bright hazel eyes and two <br />
high pigtails (just like Boo in Monsters Inc.), staring at the music <br />
leader with the most paranoid, doubtful look. A little boy, with the <br />
cutest apple cheeks, calmly and softy singing with a big sweet smile. <br />
Another energetic little boy, who has the amazing ability to charge <br />
from 0 to 100 % energy in seconds, zealously hammering out each <br />
word. </span></div>
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<span class="s1">They make me laugh and I love them all. </span></div>
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<span class="s1">These wise little people remind me of a tough battle I am fighting. It is <br />
not easy to choose what God has planned for me over cultural and <br />
social norms. Many kind and gracious people reach out and have <br />
helped me along the way and some chose to cast stone, calling out <br />
judgement in the name of love. It is not easy to feel personhood in a<br />collective culture. </span></div>
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<span class="s1">It really hurts. </span></div>
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Because you can’t go show everyone your patriarchal blessings <br />
convincing them that you are just trying your best to live up to the <br />
Father’s expectations. Sometimes the best show-and-tell is when you <br />
just remain firm and steady, reaching your goal, and be truly content <br />
with your achievements.</span></div>
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<span class="s1">It’s a nerve-racking experience packing up and getting ready to move <br />
across the world. However, I’ll remember these cute primary kids <br />
confidently showing their uniqueness and remind myself that <br />
Heavenly Father loves me very much.</span></div>
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<span class="s1">So much that He has pointed me to the road less travelled by. </span></div>
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K.D.</div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00930702726600770839noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6621959861967625747.post-85234619123044058952014-07-07T09:34:00.000+08:002014-07-07T09:34:19.068+08:00We Believe in... DOING GOOD<div class="p1">
<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjxsCnpFp4m1Ja1t5gQEZYb32C4PXXVqUaYF-FA408zSHHgfqgsFzg9GtazvjCovU144IeW8uZO-QUAqapJdYP93PyTH6CQwS1OBPbSbFccu0jGiUn0g2vekn4-Qe8h1zXC7aQi4QaKgWo/s1600/July_1+4+(1).jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjxsCnpFp4m1Ja1t5gQEZYb32C4PXXVqUaYF-FA408zSHHgfqgsFzg9GtazvjCovU144IeW8uZO-QUAqapJdYP93PyTH6CQwS1OBPbSbFccu0jGiUn0g2vekn4-Qe8h1zXC7aQi4QaKgWo/s1600/July_1+4+(1).jpg" height="212" width="320" /></a><span class="s1"><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br />July 1st, 2014, I walked down the footbridge in Causeway Bay with <br />
Grace and we were waiting for the protest to begin. As I saw the van <br />
leading a massive crowd slowing moving forward, a surge of familiar <br />
emotions quickly replaced my excitement and my eyes became <br />
watery. </span></div>
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<span class="s1">I would have never prepared for the moment. But that day, I felt <br />
fearful as I tried to envision the future of Hong Kong.</span></div>
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<span class="s1">I was born and raised in Hong Kong. </span></div>
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<span class="s1">I was 2 when I went to the first public demonstration for June 4th. </span></div>
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<span class="s1">In the Church, we often talk about salvation/eternal family/eternal life. <br />
When it comes to doing good, the direction of discussion often leads <br />
back to a spiritual level where we just baptize them all (as doing them <br />
a favor). In a recent YSA activity, I felt the familiar sense of <br />
hollowness and got me thinking about the purposes of life.</span></div>
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<span class="s1">I played nice, joked, and chatted but it still felt like swallowing a ton of <br />
filibusters or MSG.That really yucky sense of hollowness was <br />
grossing me out. As much as I like having fun and looking for an <br />
adventure, it just doesn’t cut it. </span></div>
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<span class="s1">Why feeling empty? Am I just missing someone who can talk about <br />
anything and everything with me? </span></div>
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<span class="s1">Ha.. maybe .. but I wholeheartedly believe that there is more to life <br />
than gratification. YSA stuff is fun and cool but can we for once at <br />
least do something for someone else? I want to serve because that <br />
what Jesus will do. I want to talk and learn about politics because I, in <br />
reality, live in a society frankly filled with lousy politicians. I want to <br />
talk about medicine because health is important beyond the don’ts in <br />
the Word of Wisdom. I want to talk about gender equality because<br />some women still see the priesthood as a burden and were so glad not<br />to have it. </span></div>
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<span class="s1">Today my Facebook newsfeed was filled with people sharing this <br /><a href="http://hk.apple.nextmedia.com/news/art/20140706/18789996"><b>article</b></a>. Quick summary for my non-Chinese speaking peeps: A high <br />
school boy received an outstanding award and revealed his living <br />
conditions in his speech. He was abandoned by his parents and was <br />
raised by his grandparents. After his grandpa passed away, his <br />
grandma’s hoarding habits was uncontrollable. In his own word, he <br />
described “ I have to shower 3 times and run out of the door. The <br />
fridge has been broken for awhile and I have to eat overnight leftover <br />
food even it’s spoiled. Sometimes a ton of ants will crew out from the <br />
food, and there are flies around but I have to eat it. It really looks like <br />
poop but I get used to throwing up and stomach pain.” He was <br />
depressed and attempted suicide but was thankfully stopped by <br />
friends. </span></div>
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<span class="s1">Here comes my point—> Why would anything feel touched and think <br />
that was love??????????????????????</span></div>
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<span class="s1">My first reaction was blunt: where the heck are teachers and social <br />
workers? That is by the book child abuse!!!!!! Grandma was clearly <br />
mentally unstable and physically, emotionally endangering the boy. <br />
How can any one legitimately call it love and obedience? By are we <br />
reacting to this type of unnecessary sacrifice and consider it as <br />
patience?</span></div>
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<span class="s1">Then I remember my sense of hollowness. This is the last days. This <br />
is the world that’s filled with twisted values and confusion as <br />
mentioned in the scriptures. Sometimes I even feel that we get too <br />
caught up in working towards our own salvation and eternal family <br />
and forget that it’s part of our covenant to serve others. I hope this is <br />
a time for us to reflect on how we can do to help more, to reach out to <br />
those who are in need, even if they don’t appear to be or esteem as <br />
unworthy to receive help. </span></div>
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<span class="s1">The July 1st protest is not a one time deal but only a beginning. The <br />
moment we critically think, to let go of essence of (Mormon/Chinese/<br />
whatever) culture that is not in harmony with Christ’s teaching, we <br />
reignite hope, a hope that will carry us through rough time till the <br />
second coming of Christ. </span></div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00930702726600770839noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6621959861967625747.post-35852376088730699472014-06-16T00:38:00.000+08:002014-06-17T10:26:23.144+08:00The One Thing that I Expect of You as a Fellow Disciple of Christ<div class="p1">
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I know we all have different feelings and stances on the subject of </div>
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<span class="s1">I understand that.</span></div>
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<span class="s1">“A New commandment I give unto you, That yet love one another; as <br />
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<span class="s1">My heart has been heavy reading the articles from different blogs and <br />
comments on the disciplinary councils of two activists. While I’ve <br />
talked about my thoughts on Ordain Women early on, I want to talk <br />
about our reactions. </span></div>
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<span class="s1">There are people whom I love and cherish deeply have gone through <br />
the disciplinary council. They all describe how excruciating it is to <br />
work things out and how miraculously the learning opportunity turns <br />
out to be. I admire them and I’ve walked with them. I cannot think of a <br />
more important responsibility to ensure they feel loved and supported, <br />
by a loving Heavenly Father in the process through mortal beings like <br />
us. </span></div>
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<span class="s1">Reading those antipathetic, snide comments on Facebook or hearing <br />
judgmental criticism is more personal than it seems because I’ve <br />
personally experienced and witnessed people using what seemingly <br />
to be a learning opportunity to warrant and legalize unacceptable <br />
behavior. </span></div>
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<span class="s1">Let us all agree on one thing.<br />
“He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her.” <br />
John 8:7</span></div>
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<span class="s1">The district president ended today’s sacrament meeting with a short <br />
yet powerful message. He talked about how disagreement should be <br />
embraced with the diversity in the district and what we did or didn’t do <br />
to show love. He asked if we didn’t show love by aliening, ostracizing, <br />
judging, and criticizing. Affirming the Savior’s commandment to love <br />
one another, he invited us to love unconditionally regardless of the <br />
circumstances. His remarks on love, openness, and obedience nearly <br />brought me to tears. </span></div>
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<span class="s1">Can we please agree on that one thing? </span></div>
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<span class="s1">And now here is my vomit of thoughts on women and the priesthood.<br />
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I do not associate myself with the Ordain Women movement even I <br />
believe in a lot of the feminist values. If you ask me about <br />
oppression in the Church, I’ll answer no. A “NO” that entails not from <br />
the Church but “Yes” from its members. I understand it. I really do. <br />
Members are imperfect people trying to live the best in a perfect <br />
gospel. I too am imperfect and I don’t seek or expect things to be like <br />
sunshine and roses. Like President Tai, the district president, I love <br />
disagreements because that simulates me to think, to seek <br />
understanding, and to empathize. </span></div>
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<span class="s1">What bugs the heck of me is the absence of respect and blurry <br />
boundary. When my social life, choice of spouse, and academic <br />
pursuit has become a constant topic of discussion in my former ward <br />
in open setting where my mother still goes to, it’s getting <br />
disheartening. Thankfully my mother has grown to develop a crazy, <br />
sarcastic sense of humor brushing off those ridiculous comments <br />
without revealing further information disclosing parts of my life that I <br />
don’t intend to share (and you wonder where I get my personality <br />
from…). It isn’t about what they say but the message they are <br />
sending by saying those kind of things. They do not own me and I’m <br />
not obligated to blindly obey. When my choices, different then theirs, <br />
are considered as signs of disobedience, it doesn’t feel right at all. </span></div>
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<span class="s1">Don’t get me wrong; I love and respect the people who are older than <br />
me … The very fact that I have lunch with them almost every day at <br />
work, cracking jokes, trying not to choke to death, and have very <br />
serious conversations shows how much I love and admire them. <br />
From time to time, I’ll bug them for advice because I know they’re way <br />
smarter with more experience and I can trust them. </span></div>
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<span class="s1">And here is the thing, they help me to see from their perspectives and <br />
try really hard to understand me. Maybe they know too well that I’m <br />
not the type of girl that can just be told to do stuff (never in my <br />
lifetime.. seriously, I was a very opinionated infant) or maybe they too <br />
don’t like to be told to do stuff (you know I’m talking about you, <br />
rebels.. hahaha). Regardless of the apparent reasons, I can always <br />
feel their love and support in my endeavors. That is the type of <br />
leaders I have been trying to be. </span></div>
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<span class="s1">And here goes another piece of women and the priesthood. Please <br />
don’t ever attempt to comfort me by saying we have womanhood or <br />
motherhood. These ____hood things, manhood, womanhood, <br />
motherhood, fatherhood, priesthood, in a way represents a unique <br />
sets of responsibilities and expectations. I am content that women do <br />
not have the priesthood at this moment and I can live with the <br />
uncertainty not knowing if we will be given that one day. I’m cool with <br />
that but please don’t try pinning womanhood and motherhood on me <br />
to explain things that are yet to be revealed by the Lord. Let Him or <br />
His prophets or apostles do the explaining….. </span></div>
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<span class="s1">I don’t ask you to agree with me. All I hope and long for is the <br />
increasing of understanding and unconditionally love when we <br />
disagree. </span></div>
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<span class="s1">That’s the one thing that I expect of you as a fellow disciple of Christ.</span></div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00930702726600770839noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6621959861967625747.post-12016725004976082562014-06-06T19:22:00.000+08:002014-06-06T19:22:21.353+08:00Looking Back and Envisioning Ahead<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">June 2014 marks a year of the “Chinese Mormon Girl” project. <br />
It was year of joy, mourning, and spiritual & intellectual rebirth. <br />
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<span class="s1">A year ago, I was very lost in my direction. Thinking differently, being <br />
a liberal devoted Mormon while embracing postmodernism + <br />
feminism created a whole new identity crisis. Academically, I was <br />
struggling for a breakthrough, stretching, and exploring creatively in a <br />
culture that embraced conformity.</span></div>
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<span class="s1">Little did I know, I had to endeavor some spiritual hardship to grow, <br />
and comprehend Heavenly Father’s plan. </span></div>
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<span class="s1">It all began with two non-conformers wanting to be the change. It all <br />
started in the summer of 2012 when Grace interviewed me for her <br />
thesis. I had already changed and headed out to the gym but <br />
somehow I felt strongly about returning for the interview. For a few <br />
hours, we chatted about the Chinese Mormon culture and it blew my <br />
mind wild opened knowing I wasn’t the only one (thinking and feeling <br />
that way). </span></div>
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<span class="s1">Then came Spring+ Summer of 2013 with a bunch of crazy friends <br />
hiking and going on adventures while getting into in depth discussions <br />
on Church doctrine and culture. In my heart, I felt that stirring which<br />
eventually fueled me sharing my thoughts and struggles. I wished and <br />
dreamed that all outliers in the Church could feel the pure love of God <br />
through members, leaders regardless of their circumstances. </span></div>
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<span class="s1">It’s a very emotional moment looking back and measuring our growth <br />
in the past year. The blog has been presented at a national <br />
conference at UC Berkeley. Grace graduated with her master’s and <br />
so did I. We have remained strong and faithful in spiritual turmoils and <br />
holding on to our beliefs. </span></div>
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<span class="s1">When my advisor notified me that I would be award with distinction for <br />
my master’s, a lot of memories flashed back in my mind. I saw the <br />
faces of people whom predicted my failure because of my <br />
weaknesses. I vividly saw a friend whom reminded me who I was and <br />
inspired me to be my best self. I felt the warmth of your constant <br />
support and comments for us and the blog. We made it. </span></div>
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<span class="s1">In Doctrine and Covenant 88:42-44, we are taught that there is no <br />
wrong timing in God’s plan. Things and people fall into the right place <br />
according to His plan and I am a witness of that remarkable concept <br />
of time. </span></div>
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<span class="s1"></span><br /></div>
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<span class="s1">In two months, I will begin the next chapter of my life and starting my <br />
doctoral degree in Counseling Psychology at BYU (and hopefully<br />
doing tons of cultural and gender studies). I am truly grateful for the <br />
mindfulness of the Lord and the wondrous opportunities helping and <br />
shaping me to be me. All I wish and dream for is living up to His <br />
expectations and the vision Heavenly Father had when He created me. <br />
That will be the real me.</span></div>
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<span class="s1">Just me. </span></div>
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<span class="s1"><br /></span></div>
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<span class="s1"><br /></span></div>
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<span class="s1">K.D.</span></div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00930702726600770839noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6621959861967625747.post-10502410741811250852014-05-30T14:15:00.002+08:002014-05-30T14:17:17.336+08:00One Year Mark!<div class="MsoNormal">
<span lang="EN-US">Danise and I started this blog last year.
Time does fly and we both can't believe what had happened to us and the kind of
experiences that we had in the past year. We are both starting a new chapter in
life in the coming months and all that we can say is - God does watch over us
and knows us really well. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">In the past year, we both tried to express
out thoughts and ideas through this blog and boldly share what we think about
the Church and the Mormon culture to others. We receive both positive and
negative comments. What touches me is, somehow, somewhere, people who we barely
know and have access to our blog would come to us and say "oh, how I love
your blog!", "That's exactly what I think!", "I do read
your blog and enjoy reading it.". These words and conversations are truly
an uplifting encouragement to Danise and
I, and we are truly thankful for these kind words. Sometimes we do get negative
comments, that's alright, we all think differently, right? We do appreciate the
time you spent on reading what we wrote. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">On my part, I felt that I have grown a lot
in the past year, in contemplating and understanding my relationship with God,
the Church, the members, and myself. It has come clear to me that as members of
the Church, we need to stop thinking that we are the "chosen" people
and let go of the pride.We need to let go of the structural limitation of the
organization and focus more on seeing people as people. We need to, as the
Bible said, remove the beam from our own eye when interacting with other
members, and lastly, we need to see ourselves as people and love ourselves ten
times more than we do now, and treat ourselves better.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">At last, I am grateful for my buddy Danise,
without her, this blog won't exist. I thank her for the wonderful mind that she
has, and the willingness to talk about things that no one would talk to me
about regarding some church issues and how we feel about it. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">Thank you Danise, and thank you to all who
read this blog!<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">G.K.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00930702726600770839noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6621959861967625747.post-38465690125545665672014-05-12T13:06:00.000+08:002014-05-12T13:06:55.543+08:00Forgiveness— The Strength and Courage in Advocacy<div class="p1">
Few nights ago, I was so discouraged and frustrated. My decision of </div>
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<span class="s1">
moving to a new branch attracted a great deal of attention and a lot of <br />
folks came to my mother inquiring my whereabouts. Some showed <br />
genuine concern about my church attendance however some left <br />
stinging comments speculating my circumstances. These unkind <br />
comments made an already difficult situations more traumatizing. I <br />
was pretty emotional while trying to finish my thesis and for a <br />whole week my eyes were just puffy. </span></div>
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<span class="s1">One night when I was incorporating the meaning of agency from a <br />
social constructionist view in my thesis, something struck me. Frocult <br />
argued that human being was a “manifestation of discourse”and <br />
Sawicki added that we exercised our agency to choose between <br />
discourses after careful reflection (Burr, 2003). Deep down in my <br />
heart and mind, I understood that because I too had choose a <br />
religious discourse pertaining the justice and equality aspects over <br />
my cultural discourse. </span></div>
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<span class="s1"></span><br /></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">The next morning I woke up with the clearest epiphany. That is the <br />
reason why the Savior pled, “Forgive them, because they know not <br />
what they do.” (Luke 23:34) It wasn’t the action, the behavior <br />
(crucifying the Savior) that the people didn’t know. Just like everyone <br />
of us, the Jews were so blind-sighted and governed by the discourses <br />
(their culture and traditions) and unfortunately killed the source of <br />
truth who was promised and foreordained to free them. </span></div>
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<span class="s1"></span><br /></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">I was so overwhelmed by the power and strength of the thought and <br />
the empowerment it brought physically, emotionally, and spiritually. <br />
We can’t force people to see things that they can’t see. All we can to <br />
is continuing in our discourses and be a powerful, positive influences, <br />
a living testimony of our conviction. </span></div>
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<span class="s1"></span><br /></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">Forgiveness is not a sign of weakness, compromise, nor <br />
indetermination. It is a sign of charity, strength, hope, and conviction<br />to love even we are ridiculed for the cause that we stand for. <br />
Forgiveness is an attribute of a powerful and effect advocate. <br />
</span></div>
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<span class="s1">“Here Christ closes the loop between his love for us and our <br />
discipleship. It's true that Christ doesn't promise security, justice or to <br />
keep us from feeling pain in this life. But that's not the peace that <br />
comes with Christ-like love. The type of love Christ describes is <br />
neither passive nor abstract. It is active. It is a force that causes us to <br />
see others as the Lord sees them and then requires us to treat them <br />
the way the Lord would treat them. It is the type of love that does <br />
more than feels compassion or sympathy. It seeks out injustice and <br />
suffering wherever it maybe and seeks to heal and reconcile. Paul in <br />
his epistle to the Hebrews calls this "provoking unto love" and <br />
teaches us one of the eternal truths about its power. Hate cannot <br />
defeat hate. Only love can do that.” — Chad Ford</span></div>
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<br />
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<span class="s1">Burr, V. (2003). Social constructionism. New York, NY: Routledge Publishing. </span></div>
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<span class="s1"><br /></span></div>
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<span class="s1">K.D.</span></div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00930702726600770839noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6621959861967625747.post-40551071541961263052014-05-06T10:06:00.000+08:002014-05-06T10:09:03.166+08:00The Aftermath<div class="p1">
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<div class="p2">
Sitting in the sacrament meeting and knowing I no longer have to look <span class="s1"></span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">
over my shoulder, my heart was filled with a sense of serenity that <br />
I’ve missed. I thought of Elder Holland’s talk at the Area Office <br />devotional talking about imperfect people in a perfect church. I <br />
remembered all the kind and awesome leaders I’ve met and served <br />
with and how much I wanted to grow up to be just like them. </span></div>
<div class="p2">
<span class="s1"></span><br /></div>
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<span class="s1"></span><br /></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">The past month was a very difficult one. I tried to stay strong and not <br />
let all the criticisms drowned me but every one around me saw the <br />
dark cloud above my head. It was a very dark place, a place where I <br />
could not leave without help. </span></div>
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<span class="s1"></span><br /></div>
<div class="p2">
<span class="s1"></span><br /></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">It was a miraculous day how my rescue was orchestrated and <br />
executed swiftly. Within two days, I had moved to another branch and <br />
left the dangerous situation. I thank each of you, who have offered <br />
prayers on my behalf, comforted me, be my empathetic ear, rescue <br />
me from the situation or FED ME CHOCOLATE. You have been by <br />
my side each step along the way and I am grateful to have your <br />
support.</span></div>
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<span class="s1"></span><br /></div>
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<span class="s1"></span><br /></div>
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<span class="s1">Sometimes those feelings and thoughts, the alienation from Heaven <br />
instilled by threats and intimidation, overwhelms me that I will start <br />
crying regardless of where I am and what I am doing. (I totally just <br />
cried my whole way home on the bus tonight and probably scared the <br />
lady sitting next to me). </span></div>
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<span class="s1"></span><br /></div>
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<span class="s1"></span><br /></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">When that happens, I’ll cry, and take deep breaths; keep thinking how <br />
my Savior has been through the same situation so that He can <br />
comfort me. I’ll count all the amazing people who has helped me to <br />
find safety. I’ll remember that I am loved and surrounded by friends <br />
and I do not walk alone.</span></div>
<div class="p2">
<span class="s1"></span><br /></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">The perpetrator once mocked me saying I had no right to stop him <br />
from caring about me and receiving revelation for me a.k.a doing <br />
horrible thing to me.</span></div>
<div class="p2">
<span class="s1"></span><br /></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">He was wrong, <br />
because I did.</span></div>
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<span class="s1"></span><br /></div>
<br />
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">Indeed,<br />
we did it. </span><br />
<span class="s1"><br /></span>
<span class="s1">K.D.</span></div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00930702726600770839noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6621959861967625747.post-54800929500772487002014-04-14T17:27:00.000+08:002014-04-14T17:35:19.380+08:00There is Room Enough The past three weeks, different events kept leading me back to the<br />
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<span class="s1"></span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">
same question. “ Is there room for me in the Church? I just don’t fit <br />
in.”</span></div>
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<span class="s1"></span><br /></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">I stood with the Filipino sisters in an elevator when a local Chinese <br />
member staring at them with a duck face. I faced ridicule when I <br />
disagreed with bigotry and refuse to follow.I put my arms around a <br />
troubled soul and love regardless of choices and values.I heard story <br />
after story of faithful, strong, and caring Filipino sisters facing <br />
challenges in their lives, gasping for air in a stormy sea.</span></div>
<div class="p2">
<span class="s1"></span><br /></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">I pled and implored my whole soul wanting to feel the reassurance <br />
that God was aware of my situations, my feelings towards all the <br />
injustice. He might not decide to fix everything, but I needed to know <br />
that He knew, and that He had heard my cry.</span></div>
<div class="p2">
<span class="s1"></span><br /></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">I will not leave the Church but how do I stay?</span></div>
<div class="p2">
<span class="s1"></span><br /></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">With the lens of a researcher, I was seeking for the unconventional/<br />
unorthodox views in General Conference and here is the list of part of <br />
my findings:</span></div>
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<span class="s1"></span><br /></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">1. The number of blessing doesn’t positively correlated to the level <br /> of gratitude.</span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">2. Being grateful does not simply mean being cheerful in distress.</span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">3. We shouldn’t wait for positive outcome in order to be grateful.</span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">4. God’s awareness of us isn’t equal to the response time of <br /> answers to prayers but he knows us and hears the pleading of our <br /> hearts.</span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">5. What seemingly is considered a burden, weights, provides the way <br /> to safe/lift us.</span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">6. Happiness isn’t the absences of trials/burden.</span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1"><br />
My heart rejoiced with this renewing sense of the gospel. Years of <br />
listening to “thank-i-mony”, and very narrow-minded sense of <br />
understanding motivated me to stay outside of the box.</span></div>
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<span class="s1"></span><br /></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">Just when I was getting ready to start watching the last session, I felt <br />
a little hand tapping my shoulder. We hugged, and cried as I <br />
facilitated and witnessed this child of God overcoming doubts and <br />
confusions by diligently seeking answers and exercising agency. It <br />
was miraculous and I once again appreciated Heavenly Father’s <br />
humour for He kept putting people on my path to help eventually <br />
leading to a way of rescuing my struggling self. </span></div>
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<span class="s1"></span><br /></div>
<div class="p2">
<br /></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">I sat down and rejoined the conference.<br />
As women, young, and elderly across the world singing <br />
“I am a child of God; and He has sent me here”,</span></div>
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<span class="s1"></span><br /></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">I knew,<br />there was room enough for me.</span></div>
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<span class="s1"></span><br /></div>
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<span class="s1"></span><br /></div>
<div class="p2">
<span class="s1"></span>K.D.</div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00930702726600770839noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6621959861967625747.post-90354213008124422082014-04-02T22:25:00.000+08:002014-04-02T22:48:36.598+08:00Will Ye Also Go Away?<div class="MsoNormal" style="background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial; margin: 0in 2.5in 0.0001pt 0in;">
<span style="color: #cccccc; font-family: "Arial","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">We read in John 6:66-71 where the disciples
“went back and <br />
walked no more with him.” The Savior turned around and asked <br />
the twelve, “Will ye also go away?” It is clear that the Savior has <br />
already known the answer but He extended the chance of <br />
reflection (verse 67).<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #cccccc; font-family: "Arial","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">The past weekend was one of the hardest times
when my <br />
testimony was challenged. For me, an individual who loves <br />
learning and am super passionate about equality and justice, my <br />
experience shattered my confidence and questioned the very <br />
essence of my conviction of the gospel.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #cccccc; font-family: "Arial","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">I pulled myself together and was very
diplomatic about it knowing <br />
my action would be a reflection of what I believed in. It took all <br />
my strength to restrain myself from doing anything stupid <br />
because of my anger and frustration. Notwithstanding my <br />
calmness, I fought for my dignity and refused to be manipulated <br />
even when my personality, reputation were at stake.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #cccccc; font-family: "Arial","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">When the shell shock passed, my feelings
surfaced. To be <br />
utterly honest with you, I was crushed. The feeling of being <br />
insulted, humiliated, and torn apart by a priesthood leader was <br />
brutal. The anguish was so tremendous that I wanted to cry <br />
every awaking moment. My energy was drained, and I kept <br />
having flash backs of the interview.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #cccccc; font-family: "Arial","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">I stand with Peter, who responded, “Lord, to whom
shall we go? <br />
Thou hast the words of eternal life.” <br /><br /><br />In an earthly justice sense, I want to clear my name and I want <br />him to be responsible for all the awful accusations <br />(without grounds) pounced against me.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #cccccc; font-family: "Arial","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">But that’s not the way leading to true healing.
As much as I want <br />
justice, I have to rely on the atonement to heal the consequence <br />
of other’s misuse of agency. Once again I have chosen to stay in<br />
the Church, not because the condemnations are right or I <br />
support the actions affected me. I stay because I know this is the <br />
restored Church of Jesus Christ. If I hold on, heal, and learn from <br />
this experience, it will be beneficial for my spirituality in a way I <br />
could have never imagined.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #cccccc; font-family: "Arial","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">“Indeed, you can have sacred, revelatory,
profoundly instructive <br />
experiences with the Lord <i>in the most miserable experiences of <br />
your life—</i>in the worst settings, while enduring the most painful <br />
injustices, when facing the most insurmountable odds and <br />
opposition you have ever faced.”<br />– Elder Jeffrey R. Holland, “Lessons from Liberty Jail”<br />
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00930702726600770839noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6621959861967625747.post-34250518374593441092014-03-29T23:10:00.000+08:002014-03-29T23:10:18.061+08:00Ordinary Courage<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">Our lives are shaped by these moments of truth. Whether is <br />
the chance of loving the right person at the right time, reveal a <br />
piece of truth that will turn the table, or even following the <br />
prompting of the spirit, these events alter the course our destiny <br />
and unleash all sorts of emotions such as joy, regrets, shame, <br />
authenticity, freedom, etc…</span></div>
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<span class="s1"></span><br /></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">My defining moment was a difficult lesson.</span></div>
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<span class="s1"></span><br /></div>
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<span class="s1">Because of my athletic, nerdy, and geeky lifestyle, I was a <br />
Tomboy looking girl with a terrible sense of insecurity in collage. <br />
I had a close group of friends but I longed to fit in. One day, my <br />
cell phone rang. To my surprised, the call was from a classmate <br />
who was also from Hong Kong, a talented student, and a <br />
dashing star on campus. I was so flattered that she would even <br />
know my existence let alone calling me.</span></div>
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<span class="s1"></span><br /></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">Soon her intension was revealed. She would be leaving on a <br />
trip and wanted me to check her presence on the attendance <br />
list. She gave a few pretty good justifications and quickly hung <br />
up. I couldn’t refuse her request becauseI thought I was helping <br />
a friend. I clearly knew it was wrong but instead I traded my <br />
integrity with the chance of being accepted. </span></div>
<div class="p2">
<span class="s1"></span><br /></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">How did it end?<br />
She came back from the trip and of course never spoke a word <br />
to me. </span></div>
<div class="p2">
<span class="s1"></span><br /></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">I felt used. I felt stupid. I felt unoriginal because deep down I <br />
was not comfortable in my own skin. It was very shameful to <br />
even think back how insecure, not confident, and shy I was. But <br />
I’ve learned and grown from it. I’ve vowed to follow my gut and<br />
do the right thing.</span></div>
<div class="p2">
<span class="s1"></span><br /></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">In her moral development model, Psychologist/feminist Carol <br />
Gillian proposed 3 stages of female’s moral development. <br />
</span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1"><br /></span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">Stage 1: Pre-conventional: Focus on self-survival </span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">We tend to focus on individual survival criteria like living condition.</span></div>
<div class="p2">
<span class="s1"></span><br /></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">Stage 2: Conventional: responsibility to others, the nurturer role</span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1"><br /></span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">Stage 3: Post-conventional: decision reflecting the balance of <br />
caring for self and others.</span></div>
<div class="p2">
<span class="s1"></span><br /></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">Gillian elaborated that when teenage girls transition from stage 1 </span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">to stage 2, they struggled to maintain their ordinary courage and <br />
muffled their voices as they were expected to choose <br />relationship over justice fulfilling the nurturer role.<br />They likewise experienced tension balancing self and relational </span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">obligation. Sadly, some people would be stuck in the process </span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">and the perspective rooted deeply influencing daily decisions.</span></div>
<div class="p2">
<span class="s1"></span><br /></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">Another learning opportunity surfaced again this week as I was <br />
asked to do something unethical. To be very honest, I had no <br />
problem dodging the task but the thought of remaining in <br />
silence troubled me. Knowing my action to seek help and stop it <br />
would cause not only disagreement but contention, I acted <br />
upon my moral judgement. </span></div>
<div class="p2">
<span class="s1"></span><br /></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">It has not been easy and I am well aware of the consequence. <br />
The nerd in me keep counting all the possible retaliation and <br />
the Mulan in me wanting to fight injustice and protect the <br />
innocent. </span></div>
<div class="p2">
<span class="s1"></span><br /></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">Tonight when I go to bed, I know I’ll have a clear conscience <br />
knowing I have found my ordinary courage. </span></div>
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<div class="p1">
<span class="s1"><br /></span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">Come what may, and love it!</span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1"><br /></span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">K.D.</span></div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00930702726600770839noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6621959861967625747.post-85320219000420725202014-03-26T22:32:00.000+08:002014-03-26T22:42:13.924+08:00The Get-Over-It Attitude<div style="background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial;">
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<span lang="EN-US">Last weekend I had this opportunity to
attend conference at Berkeley, California. The conference is focused on sharing
research on Mormonism in Asia. Honestly I had a great time there. I got the
chance to meet with many great people and scholars. It was a great event for
ideas exchange. All researches and papers were great and can't list them all
here. However there's a little incident happened that I really wanted to share
my thoughts on that.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<div class="MsoNormal">
<span lang="EN-US">During the Q&A session of the panel
that I was in, a lady raised her hand, stood up and shared her comments right
after and other lady in the crowd asked her question. I can't record the exact
wordings of what she had said, but simply what she was trying to say was
something like these, "we know all the answers to the issues and questions
you all mentioned in your research. I am grateful that I know there are answers
to these questions." She then stood up and walked out the room. I hope I
didn't get it wrong but to me, what she meant was "you all just need get
over it, for whatever you guys are talking about. There're answers in the
gospel!" I agree that there are answers in the gospel that can solve our
problems, however I don't believe that we can just simply say "get over it"
and let that be the solution to any questions.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<span lang="EN-US">On the same day my friend shared with me
that she struggled a lot in her ward, simply because people are having this
get-over-it attitude. She said one time the teacher taught about forgiveness
and a sister shared her struggle and not able to forgive someone at this stage
of her life. Another sister just spoke up and said" oh! Just get over
it!" The sister was disappointed, not that she couldn't forgive that
person, but it definitely takes time to be able to forgive someone. In that
situation, she is being categorized as the stubborn-not-forgiving person.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<span lang="EN-US">It seems like among members we seek to be
result-orientated. We rejoice in hearing others successful story on overcoming
challenges and struggles in life rather than listening to how they walked
through the painful path. When we share our experiences, we tend to skip
describing the process but focus on glorifying the outcome and what a great
person we have become. Needless to say how we look down and step our feet onto
those who are struggling because we accuse them being stubborn and not having
enough faith that all things will eventually work out.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<div class="MsoNormal">
<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<span lang="EN-US">No one on this earth have the ability to
fully comprehend what other person are going through in their lives. Nor
should we tempt to believe that we have this ability and go around to mock
those who are struggling, belittling them as the little-faith. Even though we
seem to know that we can find most of the answers in life in the gospel, but
God wants us to experience, ask question and seek help. He doesn't want us to
just know the answer and get over it. We are all different. We all have our own
challenges and struggles in life. Be a good listener to those who suffer. Let
him/her share what they have been going through. Most importantly, we need to
get rid of the get-over-it attitude. Don't pretend to be the expert in dealing
with struggles and challenges because only the Lord is able to guide us
through.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<br /></div>
<br />
<div class="MsoNormal">
<span lang="EN-US">G.K.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00930702726600770839noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6621959861967625747.post-59894931368742229282014-03-09T19:05:00.000+08:002014-03-09T21:51:08.824+08:00The Voices of Women<div class="p1">
Pouting and exclaiming “It’s so unfair!” was my common gig </div>
<div class="p2">
<span class="s1"></span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">
complaining about unequal treatments between me and my brothers. <br />
As a strong-willed little girl, I laid out my logical argument, letting my <br />
tears streaming down my cheek freely and passionately negotiating <br />
my demands. When my wish was granted, my mother recalled me <br />
bouncing off with a big laugh and a slimy smile covered by a smear of <br />
booger and tears. </span></div>
<div class="p2">
<span class="s1"></span><br /></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">That was the beginning of my training in advocacy.</span></div>
<div class="p2">
<span class="s1"></span><br /></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">My voice was not necessary heard in all of the situations but I have <br />
kept speaking (minus the slimy smile most of the time). That is my <br />
right as a human being to express, to own my voice. In her book Lean In, <br />
Sheryl Sandberg described an observation seeing women stepping <br />
back and not sitting at the table along with their male colleagues. She <br />
pointed out the core reasoning of this phenomenon was like the great <br />
chicken-and-egg debate.</span></div>
<div class="p2">
<span class="s1"></span><br /></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">“Do we have gender inequality or under performing women women <br />
first?”</span></div>
<div class="p2">
<span class="s1"></span><br /></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">Without being sucked into the debate, she offered a simple yet <br />
powerful solution— LEAN IN. There goes with my answer of how to <br />
get ourselves heard. When we speak up, not only we are empowering <br />
ourselves but also buying that chance to be heard. </span></div>
<div class="p2">
<span class="s1"></span><br /></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">Ever since I started this blog, I attracted quite a truckload of <br />
overzealous comments on gender issues. It can get really frustrating <br />
trying to get through some thick scalps but I truly enjoy the <br />
opportunity to take a stand on gender equality in all honesty.</span></div>
<div class="p2">
<span class="s1"></span><br /></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">Here is a real life example:</span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">A poor soul came to me at work the other day telling me that the <br />
equal number of elders and sisters in the MTC was the result of <br />
lowing sister’s age requirement for a full-time mission. Granted that <br />
was legit justification, he elaborated on women could now choose a <br />
mission then a marriage rather than a marriage over a mission. </span></div>
<div class="p2">
<span class="s1"></span><br /></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">That statement alone was enough gasoline to set me on fire.. haha</span></div>
<div class="p2">
<span class="s1"></span><br /></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">1. As researches, we recognize the possibility of the existence of <br />
latent variables while attending to lineally explain complex issues <br />
(cause and effect). In this situations, there are many many <br />
possible latent variables such as the delay of first marriage. <br />
According to the U.S. Bureau of the Census, the median age of <br />
first marriage in 1990 for women was 23.9. In 2010, however the <br />
number grew to 26.1. From the delaying trend of data, it is to <br />
believe that women generally get married in a later age for <br />
whatever reasons. Will more sisters now choose to serve <br />
missions only because of the availability of choice over marriage, <br />
I don’t think so. <br />
</span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1"><br /></span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">2. There are plenty of choices besides a mission or a marriage. <br />
Limiting the options down to two occurs to be utterly disrespectful <br />
and objectifying women. With more equal opportunities, women <br />
today have the options to be professionals, receive higher <br />
education, and participate in civil services. Unlike many other <br />
options, the decision of servicing a full-time mission should be <br />
made between God and the individuals. It’s certainly not <br />
something that anyone should just lightly choose and act upon <br />
without further spiritual confirmation.<br />
</span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1"><br /></span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">3. Our dispositions matter. The statement coming from a male, <br />
Caucasian person do appear to be quite condescending. It’s not <br />
that he can’t talk about it but let’s be more open to different <br />
voices. I was in shock how my reasons were shut right back down <br />
as a female returned missionary who once made that choice to <br />
serve. Be kind, be open, and be prepared to gracefully discuss <br />
issues in different perspectives. </span></div>
<div class="p2">
<span class="s1"></span><br /></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">I love being a woman who speaks up. </span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">I enjoy helping other women finding their own voices.<br />
My highest respect and salute to you, the many men I know, who <br />
listen compassionately and civilly.<br />
</span></div>
<div class="p2">
<span class="s1"></span><br /></div>
<div class="p2">
<span class="s1"></span><br /></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">Now, go and speak up :)</span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1"><br /></span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">K.D</span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1"><br /></span></div>
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<span class="s1"></span><br /></div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00930702726600770839noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6621959861967625747.post-85236833678327423822014-02-27T23:56:00.000+08:002014-02-28T09:57:25.714+08:00Why a PhD?<div class="p1">
<br /></div>
<div class="p2">
Being a girl was simple as a kid.<span class="s1"></span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">
I could play with legos, and own a pink Sailor Moon umbrella. </span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">I wanted to be a doctor, and fell in love with prince charming. </span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">With a head filled with curiosity and mischievousness,<br />
the sky had no limits and being happy was not complicated.</span></div>
<div class="p2">
<span class="s1"></span><br /></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">But something changed.<br />
Social sanction shaped me.</span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">Conformity constrained me.</span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">A part of me died every day when I chose not to be myself.</span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">I lost my color, my sense of the world, and my identity.</span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">No make up or fake smile could cover the emptiness, <br />dissatisfaction of soul.</span></div>
<div class="p2">
<span class="s1"></span><br /></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">What’s so funny was that I could have stayed as a victim of <br />many things for the rest of my life justifying why it has <br />gone so wrong.<br /><br />
</span><br />
<span class="s1">But I did not. <br />
I chose not to.<br />
I knew the only way out was working even harder to <br />overcome them.</span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">And so I did.<br />
</span><br />
<span class="s1"><br /></span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">I follow my ambitions and dreams. <br />
I keep getting back in the game until I can settle and love <br />someone wholeheartedly. <br />
I am getting a PhD to help minorities to whom help isn’t <br />always available. </span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">To some it’s the kiss of death of my chance of <br />getting married.</span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">To me it’s the liberation that frees me and draws <br />me even closer to God.</span></div>
<div class="p2">
<span class="s1"></span><br /></div>
<div class="p2">
<span class="s1"></span><br /></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">Only because a girl dreams to be a girl. </span><br />
<span class="s1"><br /></span>
<span class="s1">K.D.</span></div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00930702726600770839noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6621959861967625747.post-24018021548286740022014-02-16T23:53:00.000+08:002014-02-16T23:54:10.008+08:00Leadership Is More Than a Title<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">“There are only two ways to influence human behavior: you can <br />
manipulate it or you can inspire it. Leading is not the same as being <br />
the leader. Being the leader means you hold the highest rank, either <br />
by earning it, good fortune or navigating internal politics. Leading, <br />
however, means that others willingly follow you—not because they <br />
have to, not because they are paid to, but because they want to.”</span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">― Simon Sinek</span></div>
<div class="p2">
<span class="s1"></span><br /></div>
<div class="p2">
<span class="s1"></span><br /></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">I don’t like it when people call me “president”. </span></div>
<div class="p2">
<span class="s1"></span><br /></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">It’s not that I don’t like being a Young Women President but it isn’t the <br />
title that makes me one. Almost 3 year of services has surety taught <br />
me that lesson.</span></div>
<div class="p2">
<span class="s1"></span><br /></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">I could have told them I was called by divine revelation.<br />
I could have made them call me “President Mok”.<br />
I could have pushed them to look great in public and be “successful”. </span></div>
<div class="p2">
<span class="s1"></span><br /></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">But until I’ve shown them how much I love them and everything I do is </span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">about them (not me), “president” is just a title, not a description of my<br />
role as a leader.</span></div>
<div class="p2">
<span class="s1"></span><br /></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">Today’s lesson was a bench mark and a comforting reassurance. <br />
A super quiet and anxious YW read a 5 minute story starting the <br />
discussion. A YW shared a recent lesson she learnt about making <br />
right choices and bursted into tears. Another YW emotionally shared <br />
her constant struggle choose her priority for spiritual and worldly <br />
matters. My new counsellor shared her own experience doing the <br />
same. I talked about my experiences interviewing for a PhD program<br />
and how faith has been my hope and the only comfort.</span></div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">These precious moments don’t come because of my title. </span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">They come from the little moments when I respond to their texts and <br />
Facebook messages late at night.</span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">The tissues I pull out and wipe off their tears and just simply listen to <br />
their struggles.</span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">The heat and blame I have taken allowing them to exercise their <br />
agency and learn from their choices.</span></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">Sometimes even the frustration I swallow and the last bit of courage <br />I hold on to come back and do it again next Sunday.</span></div>
<div class="p2">
<span class="s1"></span><br /></div>
<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">I thank all the leaders in my life who show true leadership by their <br />
actions and love. </span></div>
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<span class="s1"></span><br />
K.D.<br />
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<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">“Leadership is not a rank, it’s a decision.” Simon Sinek</span></div>
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<a href="http://99u.com/videos/20272/simon-sinek-why-leaders-eat-last">http://99u.com/videos/20272/simon-sinek-why-leaders-eat-last</a></div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00930702726600770839noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6621959861967625747.post-2712643294486249282014-02-08T09:55:00.000+08:002014-02-08T09:55:04.506+08:00Mormons are good at living a double life. It’s okay to admit it.<div class="MsoNormal">
Recently I read an article about a sister
who did not have a single clue that her husband is having a double life after
marrying him for almost 27 years. Her husband is addicted to pornography and
couldn’t help quitting it. As I was reading this article, I thought to myself:
“Mormons are really good at living a double life, aren’t we?” Needless to say
pornography, others like, gambling, masturbation, cheating, swearing, lying,
gossiping…… (the list can go on forever), Most of the time we are having a
double life and we are not aware of.</div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<span lang="EN-GB">By talking about double life, I am not
saying that Mormons are good people in the day time and serial killers during
the night, instead, we have one face at the church and another in daily life. We
are not perfect, and Mormons are no exception. At church, no matter it’s an
official meeting or social gathering, it seems natural to show the perfect
Mormon side. On how great we are, and how perfect our lives are. Everyone seems
so perfect that they are immune from adversities and challenges. But in daily
life, Mormons may swear a little bit, gossip a little bit, or cheat a little
bit...etc. I congratulate you if you have never done these in your life (which
is quite impossible), but if you have, it’s okay to admit it, at least to admit
it to yourself and your loved ones.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<span lang="EN-GB"><br /></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<span lang="EN-GB">I think some Mormons find it unacceptable
and difficult to admit that they live a double life. The double life owner may
feel shameful to admit that they have done such--and-such. And the audience
(the members) may think that it is impossible for so-and-so have done that. The
husband in the story I mentioned, as the wife said, was in a pretty high church
calling position when he was addicted to pornography. Obviously no one is going
to believe that he has an addiction, and he himself has done so well in hiding
it. Until to a point that he finds himself cannot stand for himself anymore.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<span lang="EN-GB"><br /></span></div>
<br />
<div class="MsoNormal">
<span lang="EN-GB">I admire the sister and brother in the
story that I mentioned above. The husband admitted that he is addicted to porn
and the wife admitted that this is not shameful but something that they have to
fight for. I am not suggesting that we all should go up to the pulpit on fast Sunday
and share it out loud to everyone about the double life that we have. But I
think Mormons should be true to themselves, be who we are, and not faking to be
another person in front of other members. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<span lang="EN-GB"><br /></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<span lang="EN-GB">G.K</span></div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00930702726600770839noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6621959861967625747.post-62588783508513070312014-01-27T01:06:00.000+08:002014-01-27T01:19:40.510+08:00I AM ENOUGH!!!!<div class="Body" style="margin-right: 5.0cm;">
<span style="mso-hansi-font-family: Helvetica;">“</span>Pssh<span style="mso-hansi-font-family: Helvetica;">” </span>has
been my response for people asking me what my new <br />
year resolution is but somehow I have managed to figure one out. <o:p></o:p></div>
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<b><span style="color: yellow;">I am going to love me for who I am.</span><o:p></o:p></b></div>
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Too many times I have been told I am
too _________ in my life. <o:p></o:p></div>
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Recently, a male leader in my ward told me that I was too educated, <br />
too career advanced, and too bright to be corrected by him. I don’t
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want to dig too deep into what his implications are and I am very <br />
well aware of my imperfections. That got me thinking of the other <br />
too ______ incidents. Sometimes it was said at the end of a <br />
relationship when I was told he loved me but I was too XYZ for <br />
him. Sometimes it was in class when I was told being too<br />
aggressive,
too good.<o:p></o:p></div>
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This needs to be changed. <o:p></o:p></div>
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Remember the parable of talents? All
the master has asked for is a <br />
report of how his servants have utilized their talents. Of all the people on <br />
this planet, I know and am accountable for the talents and skills I have<br />
been entrusted. While the Lord<span style="mso-hansi-font-family: Helvetica;">’</span>s
will has led me to this point with a <br />
graduate degree and working with some of the best people on the <br />
earth in my young age, I am happy with where I am at. <o:p></o:p></div>
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It isn<span style="mso-hansi-font-family: Helvetica;">’</span>t too ________; it is just right. <o:p></o:p></div>
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Surely if you want to pick on what I
am not comparing to the popular <br />
gender norm, I am not a lot of things. I am not married<span style="mso-hansi-font-family: Helvetica;">…</span>I am not <br />
underweight<span style="mso-hansi-font-family: Helvetica;">… </span>I am not very
feminine<span style="mso-hansi-font-family: Helvetica;">… </span>I am not <span style="mso-hansi-font-family: Helvetica;">……</span>. whatever..<o:p></o:p></div>
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One thing I<span style="mso-hansi-font-family: Helvetica;">’</span>ve been learning in the past year is learning to accept and <br />
love myself, even my flaws and weaknesses. It motivates me to be better, <br />
and strive harder while encountering challenges. It changes my whole <br />
world view and it simply makes me happier.<br />
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I love talking to one of
my friends who always reminds me who I am <br />
even after we have teased each other with every single possible<br />
joke and bet on anything we've played. Without cease, he ensures I <br />
know, without a shadow of a doubt, that I am enough, and then we<br />
go on with our amusing conversations.<br />
<o:p></o:p></div>
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I may not have control of how others
perceive me but I do have <br />
control on how I see myself. I will pursue my dreams and follow my <br />
path wherever it may take me.<o:p></o:p></div>
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I am not perfect but I am enough.<o:p></o:p></div>
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<b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="color: yellow;">I
am going to love me for who I am. <o:p></o:p></span></b></div>
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<b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">Why?<o:p></o:p></b></div>
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Because who's better than me to do that??<o:p></o:p><br />
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K.D.</div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00930702726600770839noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6621959861967625747.post-76782192249517163212014-01-16T22:33:00.000+08:002014-01-17T10:18:16.012+08:00Law of Chastity: It’s about Love<div class="Body">
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<span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: Calibri; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;">The missionaries desperately urged on the
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<span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: Calibri; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;">of chastity.” I
bursted out laughing with a witty thought in mind </span></div>
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say.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: Calibri; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;">Not too long into the lesson, I knew why the
missionaries needed help. </span></div>
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<span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: Calibri; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;">The sweet little investigator posted a really good argument: sex is </span></div>
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degree of intimacy as the relationship </span></div>
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<span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: Calibri; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;">matured.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;">I smiled because I
found a common language that would help us </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;">understand each other — love. </span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: Calibri; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;">The law of chastity
is more than mastering our ability to manage the </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;">procreation </span><span style="font-family: Calibri; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;">power. In
the Family Proclamation, it clearly states that </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;">physical intimacy is also an
expression of love between husband and wife. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;">Among </span><span style="font-family: Calibri; font-size: 12pt;">other essences </span><span style="font-family: Calibri; font-size: 12pt;">like
friendship, respect, self-discipline, time, and </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;">understanding, physical </span><span style="font-family: Calibri; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;">attraction/romance</span><span lang="NL" style="font-family: Calibri; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: NL; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"> is </span><span style="font-family: Calibri; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;">also critically
essential in a <br />relationship (Elder Bruce C. Hafen, The Gospel and Romantic
Love). What </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;">does sexual purity mean? Why keeping ourselves morally clean is so </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;">important before and after marriage?</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: Calibri; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;">Notice I say after
marriage too because I don’t believe that chastity simply </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;">means no premarital sex. It is a lifetime, eternal commitment for us to remain<br />pure
and </span><span style="font-family: Calibri; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;">virtuous
in our thoughts, words, and action. It is a commitment </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;">of love and let’s talk about why it is about love.</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: Calibri; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<!--[if !supportLists]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: Calibri; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-theme-font: major-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">1.<span style="font: 7.0pt "Times New Roman";">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span style="font-family: Calibri; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;">It is a love of God to keep His commandments. Simple is that. He wants
us to <br />
be free from additions and harm’s way and He has given us commandments <br />
teaching us to stay away from unnecessary or avoidable sorrow. He has also
<br />promised us that we are entitled to the protection and constant <br />
companionship of Holy Ghost when we remain morally clean.</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: Calibri; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><br style="mso-special-character: line-break;" />
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</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span style="font-family: Calibri; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;">When we love ourselves, we treat our mind and body well just like we try
<br />
eating healthy and exercising to stay fit. It makes us feel great. The same <br />
goes along with sexual purity. We honestly express affection that is within the
<br />
limit of the commandment and never treat intimacy as a commodity. We <br />
respect ourselves and honour our commitment and choices in relationships.</span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: Calibri; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><br style="mso-special-character: line-break;" />
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<!--[if !supportLists]--><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: Calibri; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-theme-font: major-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">3.<span style="font: 7.0pt "Times New Roman";">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span style="font-family: Calibri; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;">It is also an act of love to respect our love interest/spouse. Physical
attraction <br />
and intimacy can be a very powerful feeling that overpowers other critical <br />
abilities like thinking straight and understanding each other. Progress <br />
gradually within the protection of the commandment.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>What a loving and <br />
honorable act to put each other’s welfare before our own gratification. </span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: Calibri; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;">In the end, we smiled
and I ended with my own testimony and conviction of the <br />
law of chastity. Love isn’t convenient or cheap. It is the enabling power
allowing <br />
you and I to be like God, to care for and love others beyond our own natural <br />
ability. The law of chastity is a guiding principle of love and I am truly
grateful for <br />
it even though I haven’t fully comprehended the promise blessings. </span><span lang="ZH-TW" style="font-family: Calibri; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><o:p></o:p></span><br />
<span style="font-family: Calibri; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><br /></span>
<span style="font-family: Calibri; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;">K.D.</span></div>
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